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Isn’t it time to kick your past to the curb?

Something bad happened in the past, but you’re able to function reasonably well.

It’s not that big of a deal, you tell yourself. I can manage this on my own.

Besides, you hardly ever think about it – at least not all the time.

But then…

For no real reason, the painful memories jump out unexpectedly.

You thought you had trapped them forever in a dark room in the back of your brain, but, somehow, they get out and intrude on your life once again.

Lately, in fact, your past has turned into a relentless escape artist.

No matter what you do to tie it up, bury it, destroy it, lock it away or pretend it doesn’t exist, it just keeps coming back to torture you.

You’ve done your best to cope, but nothing works. At least not for long.

Now you’re starting to believe that the bad memories will never go away. You’re afraid that this is as good as it gets. You’re feeling hopeless and weak.

And that really upsets you.

Being angry and irritable with your friends and family members has become too frequent. So to stop doing that, you avoid them or shut down emotionally.

Lost and don’t know what to do next?

I can help you with that.

Hello, I’m Martin Dee

There’s one thing that I want you to know right away.

When bad things happen, it’s completely normal to blame ourselves.

It’s completely normal to want to hide.

When we’re trying to forget or ignore our pain, it’s completely normal to engage in behaviors that make life even more unmanageable and miserable. We eat too much. We drink too much. We gamble, take drugs or spend way too much money. We have an affair.

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Ready for some good news?

You don’t have to live this way anymore.

No matter how long ago the negative experience happened – even if it’s happening now – there is hope, there is healing, and there certainly is freedom from the past.

Start by knowing that there’s nothing truly wrong with you. Not really. Not at your core.

You are not what happened to you. You are not what you did or didn’t do. You are not what you – or others – think or feel about you. You are not helpless, shameful, guilty, stupid, unlovable, worthless or defective.

You are simply doing the very best you know how to do at all times.

But you’ve suffered enough. You don’t have to keep struggling alone.